Healing and training the pelvic floor is not about choosing one method.

It’s about sequence.

Just as a personal trainer wouldn’t load strength onto a stiff, guarded body, we don’t ask the pelvic floor to “work harder” before it knows how to release, move, coordinate and recover.

TRE® helps reduce chronic tension and trauma-driven guarding, restoring a baseline sense of safety in the nervous system.

Hypopressives then restore posture, breath timing, pressure management and fascial expandability — allowing an internal lift through passive recoil, organ repositioning and reflexive pelvic floor response. This is mobility and coordination training for the pelvic floor, supported by intermittent hypoxia and cellular adaptation.

Only then do we layer in Pelvic Floor Muscle Training (PFMT) — the strength work that builds urethral and vaginal closure, resting tone and endurance.

Just as strength training without mobility creates stiff, non-functional “gym strong” bodies, pelvic floor strength without mobility and coordination fails to solve pressure problems.

You may have heard the vagus nerve described as the calming nerve , or been told to “stimulate it” with breathing exercises, humming, or slow exhales.

That idea isn’t wrong.
But it’s incomplete.

The vagus nerve isn’t a switch you turn on. It’s part of a communication network linking your brain, heart, breath, diaphragm, gut , and indirectly, your pelvic floor.

Understanding this network helps explain why breath, posture, pressure, and nervous-system awareness matter so much in pelvic health.

Let’s have a slightly uncomfortable but very necessary chat.

Because if you’ve ever:
• crossed your legs before sneezing
• planned walks based on toilet locations
• avoided jumping, laughing or yoga “just in case”
• worn your safe pants (you know the ones)

…welcome. You’re in extremely good company.

Here’s the thing no one tells you:

Most “embarrassing” pelvic floor stuff isn’t because your body is weak.
It’s because it’s working overtime trying to protect you.

This part fascinates me.

The clitoris isn’t static.
It responds to breath, pressure changes, arousal, and relaxation.

When the nervous system feels safe:

• Blood flow increases

• The tissues gently engorge and lift

• The bulbs and crura subtly expand and recoil

• Sensation feels warm, alive, connected

When the system feels threatened or overloaded:

• The tissues may stay guarded

• Sensation can feel dulled, buzzy, or overwhelming

• Movement becomes restricted — not because anything is “wrong,” but because the body is protecting

This is why pelvic floor tension and clitoral sensation are so closely linked.

A gripping pelvic floor doesn’t just affect continence or prolapse , it changes how pleasure is perceived.

Smiling won’t fix your pelvic floor.
But it can change the conditions your pelvic floor is working under, and that can make a real difference.

Why your spine isn’t just a stack of bones, it’s your body’s communication superhighway

There are some emotions the mind can’t process right away
so the body steps in and protects us.

And the lungs — the place where life arrives breath by breath —
are often where grief takes shelter first.

If you’ve ever felt heartbreak as tightness in your chest, or loss as a collapse in your ribcage, you’ve already felt this truth:

Your breath holds what your heart can’t handle yet.

Discover how coordinated breath, lower-abdominal engagement and pelvic-spine alignment, inspired by Diane Lee and The Abby Method, support pelvic floor health, improve continence, and create a springy, resilient spine.

Why Your Upper Abs Might Be Working Overtime

Hourglass Syndrome is a breathing and tension pattern where the upper abdominals grip tightly inward while the lower belly pushes out.

This can lead to:

• Ribcage locked down

• Diaphragm unable to move fully

• Breath stuck high in the chest

• Pelvic floor gripping or burning

• Pressure forced downward

• A nervous system always ready for danger

It’s not a posture problem.
It’s a protection strategy.

Burnout can make you feel far from yourself almost like the version of you with softness, energy, and clarity is out of reach.

But she isn’t gone.
She’s waiting.

Waiting for breath.
Waiting for space.
Waiting for safety.
Waiting for you to stop pushing long enough to hear what your body has been saying:

“I just need a moment.
Let me exhale.”

Ask:

• What do I want my body to feel like next year?

• What makes me feel safe?

• Is reversibility important?

• Do I want a long-term solution or a gentle start?

• What support do I have?

You are allowed to take your time.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to ask for help.

A pessary isn’t a failure.
Surgery isn’t a failure.
Rehab isn’t a failure.

These are simply different paths to coming home to your body.

Discover how sex and orgasm support pelvic floor strength, blood flow, mood, and vaginal health, and why pleasure matters at every age.